DivorceFamily LawSeparationSix Steps Ultimate Guide to Navigating the Divorce Process in South Africa


Out of all life rough patches that can befall a family, divorce should be amongst the roughest and most chaotic moments not only to individuals but to the whole network of people affected by its dark energy. Obviously, the two parties dissolving the marriage both suffer beyond just emotionally as they see what they hoped to be a lifelong union finally coming to a painful end with no other solution besides settling its demise.

We created this six-step ultimate guide to navigating the divorce process, which we hope will provide you with a comprehensive overview of the divorce process, including the steps involved, legal considerations, and practical tips.

The importance of understanding the legal and practical aspects of the process can never be overstated. A comprehensive understanding of the divorce process becomes the priority in times like this as there are multiple of factors to consider and reconcile with.

This is because as much as divorce is the end of a marriage and a family union, it is also the beginning of life under new circumstances and each of the parties should highly consider this when making decisions.

Divorce is governed by the Divorce Act in South Africa; this act sets out the legal requirements and procedures for divorce. According to the act, a divorce can be granted on the grounds of irretrievable breakdown of the marriage, which can be proven in one of three ways:

  • The spouses have been living apart for at least two years and both agree to the divorce.
  • The spouses have been living apart for at least two years, and one spouse opposes the divorce.
  • There has been an irretrievable breakdown of the marriage due to adultery, abuse, or other factors.


Choosing the Right Divorce Process



Assets-Divided-in-a-Divorce-or-De-Facto-Split-in-South AfricaOnce you’ve decided to pursue a divorce, you’ll need to choose the right process for your situation. There are several options available in South African Divorce law, including:

  • Contested divorce: This is when the spouses can’t agree on the terms of the divorce, such as division of assets or custody of children. In this case, the court will make the final decision.
  • Uncontested divorce: This is when the spouses agree on all aspects of the divorce, and the court simply needs to approve the agreement.
  • Collaborative divorce: This is when the spouses work together with their lawyers to reach an agreement outside of court.


Legal Considerations

There are several legal considerations to keep in mind during the divorce process. First, it’s important to understand the difference between community property and separate property.

Community of property is property that was acquired during the marriage, while separate property is a property that was acquired before the marriage or after separation. It is important to understand each marriage type the parties were in and the settlement protocol thereof in terms of who gets what during dissolution.

Divorce is a process that, with the help of experienced and qualified attorneys can be as short and as calm as the two parties are prepared to follow the steps and work amicably towards a civil outcome.

The process can be broken down into various steps depending on circumstances, the steps may differ or overlap on case-by-case situations. The following steps are crucial to understanding during the divorce process.


Step 1: Preparation

gavel-divorce-law-books-and-wedding-rings-pictureAs much as divorce is a dreaded last resort for marriage, it is crucial for both parties to be prepared for the journey as it is a highly legal process.

Before you can file for divorce, you need to gather all the necessary documents and information such as financial records, tax returns, employment information, and any other relevant documents.

It’s also important to consider your goals and priorities for the divorce in terms of who keeps the family home, what is the primary custody arrangement you prefer for your children, and spousal support. If there are other properties and businesses how will the wealth be shared fairly to avoid resentment and bitter battles flowing through to the life beyond the divorce?

Answering these questions will help you prepare for the divorce process and ensure that you have a clear understanding of what you want to achieve and also help prepare for the.


Step 2: Filing for Divorce


File a summons: The spouse initiating the divorce must file a summons with the court. The summons sets out the grounds for divorce and other relevant information, such as the parties involved and the relief sought.

Serve the summons: The summons must be served on the other spouse in a prescribed manner, typically by a sheriff. The other spouse has a certain amount of time to respond to the summons.


Step 3: Temporary Orders

During the divorce process, there may be a need for temporary orders to be put in place. Temporary orders are court-issued orders that set out certain terms and conditions that are in effect during the pendency of a divorce case. These orders are intended to provide temporary relief to the parties while the case is pending, and they may be modified or terminated at a later date.

These orders address issues such as child custody, visitation, child support, spousal support, and the division of property.  For example, a temporary order may grant one spouse temporary physical custody of the children, or require one spouse to make temporary spousal support payments.


Step 4: Discovery

lawyer explaining discovery to a coupleDiscovery is a pre-trial process which involves gathering information and evidence to support your case. This can include depositions, interrogatories, and requests for documents. The purpose of discovery is to ensure that both parties have access to the information they need to prepare their case and to promote transparency in the legal process.

In South Africa, discovery is governed by the Uniform Rules of Court, which provide a framework for the discovery process. The rules require each party to disclose all documents that are relevant to the case and in their possession or control.

It is important to consult with an experienced divorce law attorney who can guide you through the discovery process and ensure that your rights are protected. A specialist divorce attorney can also help you negotiate the scope and terms of the discovery process and advocate on your behalf if disputes arise.


Step 5: Negotiation and Mediation

couple arguing with across the table with mediator present

Negotiation and mediation are two alternative dispute resolution methods that may be used in a divorce case to help the parties reach a settlement agreement outside of court.

Negotiation involves direct communication between the parties or their qualified divorce attorneys, with the goal of reaching a mutually acceptable settlement agreement. Negotiation can take place at any time during the divorce process and can cover a wide range of issues, such as property division, child custody and support, and spousal support.

Mediation involves the use of a neutral third party, known as a mediator, who facilitates communication and negotiation between the parties. The mediator does not make decisions or impose a settlement, but rather helps the parties reach a mutually acceptable agreement.

Mediation can be a useful tool in a divorce case, as it allows the parties to have greater control over the outcome and may be less adversarial than going to court.

It is important to note that negotiation and mediation may not be appropriate in all cases. For example, if there is a history of domestic violence or abuse, negotiation and mediation may not be effective. It is also important to consult with an experienced divorce law attorney who can guide you through the negotiation and mediation process and ensure that your rights are protected.


Step 6: Trial

A divorce trial is a formal legal proceeding in which a judge or magistrate hears evidence and arguments from both parties and makes a final decision on the issues in dispute. Divorce trials are typically used as a last resort when the parties are unable to reach a settlement agreement through negotiation or mediation.

The evidence may include documents, such as financial records, and testimony from witnesses, such as friends or family members. Each party may also cross-examine the other party and any witnesses.

After hearing all of the evidence and arguments, the judge or magistrate will make a final decision on the issues in dispute. The decision is set out in a final order, which becomes legally binding once it is filed with the court.

It is important to note that not all divorce cases require a trial. In many cases, the parties are able to reach a settlement agreement through negotiation or mediation. However, if a trial is necessary, it is important to consult with an experienced divorce attorney who can guide you through the process and advocate on your behalf.


Hiring a Divorce Lawyer

No matter what type of divorce process you choose, it’s important to hire a qualified divorce lawyer. A good divorce specialist attorney can help you navigate the legal process and protect your rights, provide guidance, support, and representation throughout the proceedings. Here are some key reasons why you should consider hiring a divorce attorney:

Knowledge of the law: An experienced divorce attorney is familiar with the legal system and can provide you with guidance on the laws and procedures relevant to your case.

Negotiation skills: A divorce attorney can help you negotiate a fair settlement agreement, which can help you avoid a lengthy and expensive trial.

Protection of your rights: A specialist divorce attorney can protect your rights and advocate on your behalf, ensuring that your interests are represented at all times.

Access to resources: An experienced divorce attorney has access to a network of experts, such as financial advisors and child psychologists, who can provide valuable input to your case.


Dividing Assets and Debts

One of the most important aspects of a divorce is dividing assets and debts. The South African Divorce Law requires that assets and debts be divided fairly between spouses. This doesn’t necessarily mean that everything will be divided equally – the court will consider factors such as the length of the marriage, the contributions of each spouse, and the needs of any children involved.


Child Custody and Support

If you have children, custody and support will be a major issue in your divorce. The best interests of the child are the primary consideration when determining custody and support. The court will consider factors such as the child’s age, health, and education, as well as the ability of each parent to provide for the child’s needs.


Finalising the Divorce

Once all the issues have been resolved, the divorce can be finalised. The court will issue a decree of divorce, which makes the divorce official. It’s important to note that the divorce won’t be final until the decree of divorce has been issued.


Moving Forward After Divorce

Divorce can be a difficult and emotionally draining process, but it’s important to focus on moving forward once the divorce is final. This may involve seeking counseling or support from friends and family. It’s also important to take care of yourself during this time, both physically and emotionally.



Divorce is a complex and emotional process, but with the right information and support, you can navigate it successfully. Hopefully this ultimate guide to navigating the divorce process will give you a broader information about preparation, filing for divorce, service of summons, settlement agreement, and trial are all important steps in the divorce process. Legal considerations such as the community of property regime and child custody should also be considered. With the right preparation and guidance, you can obtain from specialist divorce attorneys, you can successfully navigate the divorce process with confidence of favorable results on your behalf so you can move forward with your life.


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